I’ve been struggling all my life with social norms, in large part because I was always fairly resistant to peer pressure. I’ve been looking for the past few years for a way to describe my relationship with social norms–it did not occur to me until recently that there were actually three different ways I interact with social norms, and that it depends largely on what norm we’re talking about. There are norms that I’m completely ignorant of and violate; there are norms that I’m aware of and don’t violate; and there are norms that I’m aware of but choose to violate anyways. It all depends on what norm we’re talking about. And that perhaps is more empowering than just treating all norms one way–for treating them in three different ways indicates that I am not ruled by norms–that I follow what I feel is right–if it overlaps with a norm, great; if it doesn’t overlap with a norm, then I’m perfectly fine with violating a norm. That in turn indicates to me that I’m still who I want to be–for it’s important to me to follow what I feel is right even if it is in conflict with what others feel is right.
Published by Devin Hogg
My name is Devin Hogg. I was born and raised in Carnarvon, Ontario, Canada. I moved to Guelph, Ontario, Canada in 2009 for university and lived here ever since. In my free time, I enjoy reading, watching TV and movies, going on long walks, swimming, and practicing Chen style Tai Chi. I love to write poetry and blog regularly about topics such as mental health, sci-fi/fantasy series, faith, sexuality, and politics. View more posts