A Month In Honour of Solo Sex: The History of Masturbation May, and Some Personal Reflections

Content warning: This blog post will talk about adult content and include frank discussion on sex and sexuality. If that’s not your cup of tea, best not read further. Masturbation May: A Brief History Recently, I’ve been seeing some posts by Hannah Witton, a sex educator I follow, who has been mentioning Masturbation May. IContinue reading “A Month In Honour of Solo Sex: The History of Masturbation May, and Some Personal Reflections”

Poem: Grow Your Beard

When I was youngI wanted a beard.Thought it looked coolNothing more.When I was a young manHair started sproutingThe time to shave had come.My body betrayed meMy hand too weakMy coordination too poorMy hair growth too fast.Always spots I would missHated how I lookedHated that my failureWas all too obviousLiterally showing on my face.Many a-timeI toldContinue reading “Poem: Grow Your Beard”

Comfortable In The Nude: A Case Study of Body Confidence, Star Wars, and The Dragonriders of Pern

When I was around the age of 10, I started to become increasingly frustrated with my body. It did not perform as well as I would have liked, it was not developing the way I would have liked, and it was becoming more and more a source of ostracization and shame from my peers. YetContinue reading “Comfortable In The Nude: A Case Study of Body Confidence, Star Wars, and The Dragonriders of Pern”

Poem: Afraid To Touch

When I was youngLearning about pubertyI was curiousAnd oh, so afraid.I always loved deeplyBut was oh, so alone.Fascinated by my bodyBut afraid to touch.Afraid to grow.Afraid to explore.When I was a teenBecame a point of prideThat I had not succumbedTo my baser nature.But pride was a maskMask of fear and shame.It wasn’t untilI left myContinue reading “Poem: Afraid To Touch”

Poem: Body Talks

When I was youngI hated my body.Stomach always achingMuscles always hurting.Always too slow.Too small.Too boney.As I grew olderOnly got worse.Penis standing erectAt slightest stray thought.Heart always pounding.Everything too noisy.Too painful.Too overwhelming.Now I love my body.I know how to listenAs my body talks.When I grow sad or angryI know I need food.When I grow fatiguedI knowContinue reading “Poem: Body Talks”

Poem: Penis Moments

It has always been thereSource of curiositySource of pleasure.Both convenienceAnd inconvenience.My father taught meHow to wash itKeep it clean and healthy.I shouted with joyTo discover hair growingAll around it.I raced homeIn an effortTo have it not betray me.With golden liquid streaming forthI stood before my Grade 5 classFace flushed with shameAs a pool of wetnessTriggeredContinue reading “Poem: Penis Moments”

Poem: Learning To Love My Body

I came into the worldSmall and afraid.Had to take meForciblyFrom my mother’s womb.I am toldI was beautifulThough I cried a lotStruggled to sleep.Slow to talkSlow to walk.As I grewLearned not to trustMy own body.Grew to hate itDespise itWish it were differentSee it only as weakness.Had only a slight inklingOf the goodThe potentialIn my body.ThenSlowly butContinue reading “Poem: Learning To Love My Body”

Afraid to Dance

“A warrior who cannot dance? Clumsy in both war and peace he is”–Jedi Grand Master Yoda in Star Wars: Clone Wars: Cestus Deception by Steve Barnes I’ve noticed a trend among young adults in Canada, which was once a curiosity, but now is an area of growing concern. When people are encouraged to dance, thereContinue reading “Afraid to Dance”

On Men In Fiction: The Role Models That Inspired Me

Recently, the American Psychological Association released a statement highlighting the dangers of toxic masculinity, and the calling for action. The cosmetics company Gillette quickly followed up with a commercial encouraging men to be better. Now, it’s important to keep in mind that one commercial does not a company culture make, and the cynic would remindContinue reading “On Men In Fiction: The Role Models That Inspired Me”

Expanding Masculinity: On Son and Mother

This is the first in what may end up being a series of posts, springing from both a several years fascination of the intersection of gender, politics, and faith, and the recognition that while I am a heterosexual cisgender male, I also have been an untraditional male in a lot of ways.  When I wasContinue reading “Expanding Masculinity: On Son and Mother”